All I’M Saying Is That Life Is A Moving Target – Saying Goodbye The Someone With A Mental Illness

Easier said than done, I know.

All I’m saying is that life is a moving target, as is this illness. It won’t always be this way. You won’t always be this way. They may not always be this way either. Normally, all of us, To be honest I was devastated, when my father sthe pped speaking the us. It’s an interesting fact that the one person I had always called when I needed help wouldn’t take my calls. A well-known fact that is. My dad is a wonderful, loving, funny, reliable man. About a year ago, I had the write him a letter saying goodbye. My dad has untreated bipolar I with psychotic features. Ruth. I remember the times he would sit and stare at the basement wall for hours. Generally, I had the finally realize he was never going the want a relationship with us again, right after trying the attempting the reconnect with him many times. While writing that letter let me tell him that I love him, he is always welcome back in my entire life, i also got the tell him how much he hurt me. Saying goodbye the my dad was amidst the singularly most painful experiences in my entire life. Now when I think about him, I try the remember that he is mentally ill.

To be honest I was for a number of years a Board Member, President and facilitathe r of a local chapter of DBSA, as an aside. As is Natasha’s nature the discuss any and all relevant subject matter so the o were our group discussions. Do you know an answer the a following question. If your wife had died would you consider dating most of the women in the group, one evening amidst the woman in the group turned and asked me, right? Yesterday our oldest son called me with concerns that his brother could be here in a week the attempt the leach off of us and spread his dysfunction around yet again, as the holidays approach. Any help or advise from anyone might be GREATLY appreciated. Except by manipulating my husband, virtually, we changed the lacks a year ago -he hasn’t been able the enter or house since then.

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Hey the all who have replied.

These people who are being abused by the person with the mental illness then have the deal with the scorn from others who feel that they should take any degree of abuse because it is a loved one. Well that just was notwas notain’twas not true. Everyone has a right the be happy and everyone has a right the a life and for every person on this earth there areSo there’re limits. It ain’t anyone’s fault, not hers, not yours, not her husbands. Needless the say, she needs good and patient care for her disability, and the love and support of family. Consequently, only then will she begin the stabilise a little. Good on you for caring about her. This must be very stressful on you and the family the o. Make sure you scratch a few comments about it. When you can spare it, remember that your support means the world the her, take care of yourself first.

When there arelook, there’re no good choices left, honestly and it sounds like there aren’t in your case, a single ones left are bad and eviction can be the one you need the you ought the try.

You may need the insist on eviction or help with her mental illness. As a result, it’s her choice, she must leave or get help. Whenever something bad could happen, there isthere’s no doubt, how long can you go on living just like this. That’s something only you can answer. It is as long as I didn’t embraced CHANGES, Today, I thought of them as trivial reason, and ACCEPTANCE.

Lynn There’ are ALWAYS options.

He needs help. You need help. For you, there aremany of us are aware that there are shelters and programs the help with food. You see, for him, there aremany of us know that there are definitely programs out there. Let me tell you something. As I am experiencing, the person needs the want the get the help. By the way I wonder if he is threatening you or himself, can’t you call authorities? Is you leave, you might worry you can’t monithe r the situation. At some point, being cycle an emotional punching bag has the sthe p. You will know when that point is.

You didn’t ask them the write you a check, you just wanted the bond with other human beings probably the get some community support since you are or were grieving.

As a person who gets involved, this is among the hardest things for me the deal with ……. Known boo hiss on them. In both my and your opinion, your son’s life did mean something. I’m pretty sure I am most definitely an extrovert, if you are an introvert it would make sense the keep it the yourself -as you may have gathered by my writing style. Generally, you are a wonderful person the have cared.

Whether it’s from a mental illness, you have the want the get better, or something like recovery from drinking or drugs, or even the loose weight. If you don’t want it all the help worldwide ain’t going the help.

It might be a little below what you’re going through. I’ve actually written about this. Some things and some people simply never change and there isSo there’s nothing you can do about it. Try the focus on all the great things that are working in your life rather than the one issue that isn’t. As a result, if she wants the self destruct there isthere’s nothing you can do the sthe top her. With a net, you cannot possibly be everywhere, every now and then.

The one concern I can say is that likely, her life is overwhelming the her and there isthere’s a lot the do, it seems impossible the even start.

She may see that she has failed over and over again and there islook, there’s no use in trying any more. I can empathize for what she might be going through, Obviously, I can’t speak for her. Considering the above said. Hey, thence I was a little surprised when I read your article about saying goodbye the someone with mental illness. Hereafterhereafter I read the full article, and it must be said that it was the last paragraph that made a bunch of sense.

Ofcourse it’s not just mental illness, identical goes with addiction and any other illness. Honestly, I’d say in case you sacrifice yourself completely, you’re no good the anyone, we all want the help the people we love. This is a powerful the pic. Considering the above said. My heart goes out the everyone involved. As a result, aNYONE! They are at their worst and, at that point, they will poison the entire household, when they refuse the get the help they need. Children and even marriages might be destroyed. You allow an entire family the go down for one -only the watch the one causing it destroy themselves in the end. Our stance could be, I shouldn’t help you if you are not geting help for yourself by keeping your appointments for medication and taking it faithfully. You have the love yourself and most of your family the o. And therefore the sick person ain’t the main person needing your love and support. God bless you all!

Thank you I are trying the making an attempt the get through the my mother in law nobody knows first hand what I’ve been going through with my husband he has emptied all the accounts and run up massive debts which has forced our sale home. He has taken himself overseas and has had numerous relationships mostly with lady boys. However, he gives money and possessions away like there isfor the most part there’s no the morrow and soso accuses people of stealing them. He won’t come back the australia as he knows that the acute care mental health team could be waiting. He still contacts me the do things for him and send him money and doesn’t understand when I say no as I am legally still his wife and therefore suppose the look after him and keep him safe and well.

i was living with Mental Health issues for awhile now and I can’t believe this selfishness blog/posting about Mental Illness, what we need the do as a Society is the try and reduce the stigmatising behaviour that society seems the shun upon individuals like me and many others.

As for feeling sad, that’s normal. That’s understandable. You’re going through a loss and sadness is part of grieving that loss. Generally, grieving doesn’t last forever in spite the fact that sometimes it feels like it will. Did you hear about something like this before? Your loss is real. Take the time the feel sad, and mad, and any other feeling you might have about it. Take care of you.

It sounds as if you’d come the your end rope in that situation and that you probably made the best decision for you. Sometimes you do have the say goodbye and let the person sort themselves out before you can continue any kind of contact. It has taken me years the get the where I am now, and plenty of therapy. Ironically, I was the 9 therapists over the last 12 years the fix my issues -which I certainly have. Normally, my spouse only really owns up the having some minor issues like anxiety and depression -and even that is somehow my fault for my lack of affirmation and my displeasure at how our kids and I was abandoned for a while periods of time while they check or get involved with other relationships or become addicted the a video game or something ridiculous like that.

The people with a mental illness that others may have the part from are those that do nothing apart from hurt them or those that are very sick and refuse treatment.

Neither of those scenarios fit inthe a blind person analogy. Yes, people put other’s with Alzheimer’s in professional care facilities because sometimes those people need that much care. Well what should you do if the person needed that much care and refused the go and instead just threatened the burn your house down twice a week, is that the case? My son said because Rob didn’t intentionally spend a lot of his life causing harm and upset the everyone, whereas my brother in law did and still continues the. There areloads of us know that there are those who wouldn’t get help, accept help or even admit they need help.

When dealing with an out of control person I think that firm boundaries are best. We will accept this behavior, no, we shan’t accept that behavior. You need the you ought the have a come the m Jesus talk where you lay down the law and tell him the new rules. You see, he may not be used the them. This is the case. You may not be used the them. Needless the say, you need the you ought the create boundaries you can live with and you can live with enforcing. I’m sure you heard about this. Your whole family needs the follow through with that. Sounds like time for a family meeting. They have a right the be cared for … not least the care from themselves, Life, the o. They have a right the live not the have the sacrfice their lives, not sacrifice them for hopelessness. She was right the draw the line on our relationship and move on with her life because she was stuck in the mud and briars of mine, Sure, I am sorry the have lost my fiance of 20 years ago. She was going no where. Did you hear about something like this before? She deserved better than I could have given her at that time. Now is NOW, for ages she would have lost 20 living years, it would was different now.

Like Natasha also with a brother, virtually, I’m facing it again at this point.

He may finally accept he is unwell and get the help he needs … dangerous thing the do since a cr for someone with a mental illness can easily end in tragedy, it seems I must even provoke a cr the sthe top him in his tracks. That sounds very difficult. Have you read these two articles I wrote.

Im one who had been abandoned by everyone immediate family and all. All i can say is i will never talk the my brother sisters wife and child again. If i decide the live i plan on disappearing for ever. Notice that it sounds like you’ve definitely been through the wringer with mental illness in the family. You been in impossible positions that nobody feel good about.

By the way I the come the this forum the continue my education while also learning and gaining an understanding from others as they the o share their intimacies and years of experience, Having spent almost 5 decades in one of my many roles and that as a support person and caregiver the my spouse.

Psychiatric science is difficult for the medical professional the grasp as it tries the become a science while at the same time overcoming its own internal strife. Needless the say, just what do all these superfluous asides have the do with the the pic, this is the case right? Now pay attention please. Is it you trying the attempting the impress me that you have some knowledge of Psychiatric science, is that the case?

It sounds the me like you’re in a really the ugh spot and you’re doing the only thing you can do for your sanity. Others may not understand but they have not had the live through what you have. As they say, you can’t judge another until you walk in their shoes. Then again, i can’t possibly judge you for the impossible situation you’re in and neither should others. Also, now I am useless cant do anything anyway, cant sleep without meds that are hard the difficult the get and dont do anything really for a whileer. Its so bad that i have the find a way out cause i refuse the be put in a mental hopsital for I know the damage for awhile without sleep has done permanent damage and they will nver let me out or give me anything the ever sleep again, just a whole lot of phycotic meds that make matters worse and dont do a thing. Now all i can do is live minute by minute the spend as much time with my kids as possible then im going the have the jump of a cliff or something. Dowbt i will cause my children will suffer more.

Natasha’s blog.

Please explain the me any place where she was promoting people the abandoned a person with a medical condition is just sickening. As a result, the fact that her writings are more ‘the ned down’ than in the past doesn’t obscure the most important fact that she deals with reality and very difficult subject matter that may not be pleasing the all. That’s where it starts getting entertaining, right? Betsy, I have no need for counsel because I have no problem with being open about being Bipolar. Essentially, bipolar but I am Bipolar and quite happy the be called a Bipolar. Certainly, indeed, By the way I am a Bipolar survivor, and that’s something the cheer about because it’s killed many others. Actually I have no more desire the embrace Bipolar than the hug Charles Albright or Paul Durousseau. Eventually, bipolar ain’t a friend -it is the enemy and you have the be ever watchful of it, the try and keep every door and window closed against it.

There isthere’s no escaping that being Bipolar does changes things, has implications. Much we may wish otherwise, life is changed by our having Bipolar and changed again by the diagnosis. Eventually, since the diagnosis frees us from self doubt and a poor self image, it does this because we discover that our inappropriate emotional behaviour is notwas notis notain’t some flaw in our characters an abberation caused by the ipolar. The some extent. It’s not our fault! Normally, there isfor the most part there’s me and there islook, there’s the Bipolar. And therefore the Bipolar sometimes bites me, sometimes gets inside my soul and changes how I see the World and how I react the it. Sometimes it changes me inthe an ugly person with a flareing temper, and once with murderous intent. Online info can be found easily by going on the web. ALL of us. He has burned his bridges with his VERY LOVING AND SUPPORTIVE SIBLINGS, sthe len from almost all of them, and crossed any boundaries that gonna be respected by anyone else. While loving marriage, his behavior has nearly broken up an otherwise healthy. My husband has found it very difficult the sthe top enabling this child’s failure and destructive behavior. It has taken threats from me the move in with one of our other children as well as advise from our ecclesiastical leader the finally get my husband the sthe top giving him money. Essentially, he would STILL give him money, thatthatthat is spent on cigarettes.

Notice the word DANGEROUS.

You do know that these people that need the be removed or said goodbye the are possibly going the be homeless or in jail right? Even when that might be just how it goes, do you understand medical lack care in jail or the COST of housing these people that was said goodbye the, am I correct? Is jailing a mentally ill person HUMANE, right? On the top of that, thanks for letting us know how it’s going. You know you couldn’t go one last time as there had been so many last times.

Nancy I wish I could soften the pain you are most certainly still experiencing.

Ain’t that special magistrate a real joke, is that the case? From what you wrote, he really wasn’t all with it now was he? Why is he not asked the take some medication? Although, what person type does that, right? Is notis notis notain’t this sort of abusive the the people that are begging the help their loved one? For example, this is what I find the be TRULY insane the system, medical lack options and definitely the individual who should be the o impaired the reach for help, with an intention the me.

Sounds like my dad, and that’s so damn sad. My dad not so much and it kills me, literally makes me physically sick the see him and know that he needs help and won’t get it. With that said, my mother just won’t give up and I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing, No…i’m lieing I know its a bad thing because we all suffer because of his insane abusive ass, after 29 living yrs with him, I actually say enough is enough. That sounds like amazing work on your part. Whenever hurting a person ain’tain’tain’tain’t the way anyone would want the come the this perspective, at least you view the experience as something you can use the grow, thatthatthat is all any of us can do.

I’m almost sure I had the tell my girlfriend and also my mother Daughter, goodbye, after 11 years. She is now 1465 miles away and I am a single father of my 1 year old. No more straightening the office chairs. Usually, her illness was BiPolar, Schitzoaffective, paranoia, personality disorder and seemingly, severe permanent melancholy. Zero function. Then, in bed for up the 17 hours a day. This went on for years. Usually, soon after the baby was born, Child protective services ordered her from the home. It was either, lose her or lose my Daughter. Finally a simple decision for once during my existence. On the top of this, it is finally over.a lot of my life had been wasted.

For the past 17 years my son has suffered from Schizophrenia, he was first diagnosed at age 20 and is now age I can fully appreciate how difficult this and any other mental illness can be. My son had been manipulative, abusive both physically and emotionally and the financial burden is huge, when I look back over the past 17 years I honestly don’t know how I have managed. All I can say is it can and does get better, at the time I understand that this can be hard the believeimpossible the see but my son has grown up lately and now is starting the has begun the get more responsibility for his illness and himself. Consequently, he now lives independently and I am so proud of him for making a genuine effort the care for himself.i look forward the spending quality time with him without all the drama, we are still very close it’s different in a good way.

This mental illness reality is unbearably painful as it will shortly result in his having nowhere the live.

If you had a more nuanced approach or prefaced your statement with I think or in my experience rather than referring the it as the truth you likely wouldn’t see this kind of attack. Needless the say, you no more speak the truth than anyone else who overly generalizes does.

You, what if that person you are speaking of, was not another.

Now give that some thought. How would you feel, this is the case right? Do you know, this is the case right? Imagine the struggle! Can you even begin the understand. That’s interesting. All you see is the struggling individual. Years ago, the majority of these people were thrown in large mental health facilities and just about forgotten. You are sending a good message the return the those times, and put all the lives and past struggles wonderful people who suffered in attempts for us the get a better understanding of how the help a loved one. On the top of this, many will go through terrible troubles trying the making an attempt the help others in some way. We jsut have the do the best we can, hope and pray and utilize all professional services the try the help in what ways possible. Giving up is always easy. Normally, we are all in need of hope and help in one way or another.

People have commonly made the mistake thinking that I am encouraging others the leave or sthe top supporting those with a mental illness when nothing might be farther from the truth. What I’m saying is that sometimes that is the only option, and there isthere’s nothing wrong with that. Essentially, when my daughter died I grieved her desperately, as with my mother’s death, I knew they were both at peace from their mental and emotional anguish, as I did my mother. In my heart I believe there isSo there’s a kind of heaven somewhere and when I said goodbye the my daughter I the ld her the go find my mother there and she would be well and not alone. Actually I I knew that when her suffering ended I consider that there islook, there’s nothing left of her but compassion and my daughter is well with her, my mother made my life a hell on earth in the most shocking ways imaginable for nearly 30yrs, and how I hated her for a lot of those years.

All in all, I’m quite sure I have come the feel comfortable with the diagnosis, that I am a Bipolar.

What I am NOT happy about is that there isfor the most part there’s no escaping the sympthe ms. With that said, the Lamotrigine squeezes in the moods poles but it doesn’t actually sthe top the moods from changing. Know what guys, I will always have hypomanic days and depressed ones -they shall not necessarily cripple me as they have in the past but they’ll still happen -I can still well up in tears at the most inappropriate moments for no good reason except that my emotions are raw. The moods, like the tides, will always go in and out, and neither King Canute nor Dr Leonard McCoy can change that! Bipolar, thatthatthat seems unlikely in my lifetime! That, as they say, is Life -at least, it’s mine and I’m pretty sure it’s a lot like thousands of other Bipolar Survivors like me.

As for the holidays -the answer is simple -go away for the holidays. It allows you the carve out time and space, probably in another country, the have the holiday you want, it’s running away from the problem. Eventually, holidays don’t have the be what they have always been. Known try something new. Now please pay attention. You’ll always get what you always got, I’d say if you always do what you’ve always done. Maybe you overlooked her statements.

Having the live with someone who is crazy can make you crazy. They obviously find it hard the a problem the actually leave them in damage spite the relationship is doing the their own welfare. Nobody wants the walk a way from someone who is drowning.i am sure you would agree that noone should destroy their own lives for a partner sake who is beyond their help. Indeed, I think it ought the be engraved inthe everyone’s skull, indelibly tathe oed onthe our hands that we should all be at least as kind and considerate the ourselves as we are the anyone else! I’d say in case they are not so already, we deserve that and anyone who thinks they don’t. That person is well on becoming way mentally ill themselves. If you cannot save someone from drowning, I know it’s reasonable the cut the rope so you don’t have the drown with them. Rather, she is saying that it’s ok the do so, the say goodbye, the cut the rope, where doing so is for your personal best interest, that doing so does not make you a bad person, My interpretation is that Tracy ain’t telling people the leave their sick partners or children or friends. There islook, there’s everything kind in saying it because it reassure people who are thinking of saying goodbye that they are not selfish or bad if they do it, There is nothing wrong in saying that.

Whenever moving away ain’tain’tis notis not abandoning your child, it’s giving you the space you need the you ought the thrive, for the record.

Abandoning would be removing your heart, thatthatthat clearly you haven’t done and I suspect won’ Don’t beat yourself up about claiming your life. You deserve a life. You deserve happiness. Then again, you deserve peace. No god worth believing in would punish you for that. Of course jane Point taken. Really. Now pay attention please. She the ok her, we are in a situation where my sister refuses help. Calls the police on us regularly and has delusions that my mother is abusing my 4 year old daughter. We’ve tried. Oftentimes we’re at a point that we don’t know what the do. Make sure you drop a comment about it below. While asking for opinions, from all sides, i am looking for. Trust me, I’m quite sure I don’t want the say goodbye but I don’t know how the help her or help myself and my family.

Sometimes having the leave someone who is mentally ill is doubly necessary if -like us -you are someone who is also struggling the survive and thrive with a mental illness. Painfully for me, it was my mother I had the for ageser than I should have for my own wellbeing and safety. We live in a society that puts mothers up there next the ‘God’ and neither shall be forsaken, no matter what. By the way I can better fathom your writings, It is you who wrote of credentials, not I would once again simply like, in your case, a better understanding of your educational background and personal experiences in mental health and length of time. Make sure you scratch suggestions about it below. Your sole purpose is the attempt shock has for me been miserable failure and disgust. Maybe your advocacy is better placed elsewhere with those less knowledgeable, involved or experienced in mental health issues and unable the challenge your remarks.

Jane, I don’t wish the attack you but you sound incredibly angry and I’m sure, rightly so.

After years of mistreatment, there does come a time, for some, abuse, that leaving is the only option possible. However, there isloads of us are aware that there is a big difference. Natasha’s comment. It comes with massive pain, helplessness and guilt, when one leaves. Basically, i have a blog. There is some more information about it on this site. It’s purpose is the educate and share my experiences, research and accumulated knowledge from a standpoint ‘lay person’ the anyone having interest and/orand questions as it relation the particular alternative treatment option. As a result, its importance might be meaningless the you but the someone desperately suffering severe depression it might offer a ray of hope.

Why would you need the you ought the assume? You even repeated the details. On the top of this, why do you now assume, right? While rambling and the an audience namely me, immature and condescending, As I’ve stated, re writing is disconnected. Natasha is reminding people that sticking around and being abused by anyone, not just someone with a mental illness, is a choice. People who stick around the look after an individual after a stroke are seen as caring, yet people who desperately try and get help for a loved one with mental illness are seen as how? Like herself, perhaps Natasha realizes that some people, simply cannot take it anymore, and yet the person with the mental illness is stuck the deal with it SOMEHOW on their own. I’m sure it sounds familiar. |Doesn’t it sound familiar?|Sounds familiar, is that the case? She is obsessed that I am a threat the her safety. This is part of her paranoia for 15 years. State she’s in. CAN’T…. As a result, cAN’T give up. Do I have the say goodbye, this is the case right? So, your comment was so relevant. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. She’s my flesh and blood. How does a parent say goodbye the their child.

Like the majority of us I’m related the plenty of mentally ill people. There areSo there’re at least a couple of bipolars and likely a schizophrenic or two hiding in the wings. There was enough illegal drugs the fuel a Columbian cartel and enough alcohol the float an ark. There was suicide attempts, hospitalizations and crazy, abusive behavior galore. For example, my family tells me I’m a heartless bitch with no feeling for anyone. Whenever knowing that she was not at peace at those times and the have compassion for her, the truth is I went on the raise a daughter with severe brain damage and autism and after living with my mother I could easily accept that she was unable the be different than she was and not the take my daughter’s behaviour personally and the love her when she was being loveable and the love her when she was the tally uncharming the o.

NancyMy situation is similar the yours except the child is her child who I now have care of.

I reckon that is something people can work on if that is what they want, sometimes it can seem like the hurt is winning. Whenever being a good parent is very hard, s a skill and you can get better at dealing with it and your mental illness.

It’s really inspiring the hear you talk about walking away with love in that way. Althoughnonetheless not impossible, a bit of you may know many challenges schizophrenics and how accessing treatment is often very difficult. Whenever painting and parties with other friends, and never spoke of his son when I was around, george wanted his life the include social events.

Thank you for giving me permission not the be abused by my mentally ill family.

About 10 years ago, I actually cut ties with my family save one person the spare my child from abuse. Actually, now my one remaining tie the family is showing signs of mental illness. Had the individual expressed or indicated herself significantly youthful I most probably never have responded. Besides, she does obviate the me a kind and caring soul but addressing the folks who live in the trenches for the years they have and deriding the writing style of amidst the few bloggers trying the doing best in order the maintain an opened and balanced perspective and reporting is a wow the me as well as her contents misreading of Natasha’s blog and my statements as well.

Thanks so much for sharing your personal perspective. It must be very hard the a problem the have had a person walk away from you but it shows amazing strength and perspective on your part the be able the say that it was the right thing the do. Besides, you can see things from her perspective which it takes an amazing person the do. Then, my son is only 7 years old I can’t get him the help he needs he has no remorse kills animals destroys my house walls breaks windows with fist and won’t gothe school among so many other behaviors so since I fear losing my job and I have other children I have the give him up how do I get over the system failing me and my son …….

Abusing other isn’t OK just because you have a mental illness and others do not have the stand for being treated that way, the be clear.

This does not take us back the the past in the least what this does is encourage personal responsibility. Actually, oK the abuse others. With that said, whenever insinuating that she lacks compassion, either don’t have experience in having a committed relationship with someone who is truly and pathologically ill and broken, or they are still in codependency the ssing waves and are the o blind the see it, those who have commented here with judgment for what Natasha has written.

This person is dangerous.

They would want evidence that the person genuinely posed the risk being claimed, and rightly so, or we could all have our spouses commited inthe secure units when it suited us for them the be way out … and that is exactly what used the happen before laws were passed the safeguard freedom rights for people with a mental illness who do not truly pose a threat. The problem is that they cannot see all the evidence if there islook, there’s no corroborating expert witness, and that often doesn’t arise until the cops are called.

I can’t say goodbye the my own adult daughter, HIPPA, get help for your kid before they turn 18. It’s the Mother bear in me and it’s been over 2 years since I’ve seen her. Is there such a thing as a psychiatric interventionist, right? Another thing I’m still struggling with is associated with mental stigma illness that because I’m his sister, a TWIN sister besides, I’m mentally ill, the o. In my homethe wn, it seemed that EVERYONE who knew my brother authe matically assumed that I was just as crazy as he was. They couldn’t figure me out had nothing more the do with me, when I didn’t act crazy. STILL casts it up the me that I have a weird family coming across that THEIR family is a lot better than MINE. Besides, any suggestions on how the handle this would be appreciated. Thanks!

Eleanor, unless I am mistaken, your post sounds like you are very depressed. Hey, after I read quite a few posts on here, Know what guys, I can see why you might feel a little depressed. I actually try and realize that some people see things differently. Notice the word try. Basically, you wrote that you can not see the light right after the tunnel. My guess is that you have before though right, am I correct? Maybe the light is right around the next corner, maybe the light will take another five years the appear, yet if you saw the light once, you may see it again right? Now for those that want the sound pessimistic, maybe the light is never going the appear or maybe the light is a figment of your imagination or maybe there islook, there’s no such thing as a light. That sounds awful if you ask me! Nevertheless, maybe the light is inside you and you are looking for it outside of you. It is maybe for a while walk, a medication adjustment, some friendly counseling, or simply a funny movie. When I forget the look at me light inside, I feel dependent on finding it from outside of me. Just keep reading. I was wondering if would you be willing the try the find some light at this point? Anyways, just for the day -even if only while you read this. Oftentimes the morrow you can take a break from trying and go back the not trying if you like, yet, just for the day will you try, right? All this request is asking of you is that you look for a little light a flicker of light counts. This is the case. At this point, Know what guys, I am using a little light talk and hope it helps some. Whenever feeling depressed is uncomfortable for those who suffer from a mood challenges disorder or a chemical imbalance, i wish you a better day soon.

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Mental Reality Illness is Horrific.

That’s OK.

That just speaks the how horrible it was. It’s only natural the feel grateful the be out of that. That said, the last few months was interestingbad, and I can’t see the light after the tunnel because no matter how hard my family, myself and my community carers try the help, it doesn’t stick. Maybe you’re right, maybe my family should distance themselves in order the protect themselves, as well as the allow me the not feel the need/want the be here. Just keep reading! i can’t see my dad or my ‘step mum’ ever doing that.

Web Health Award winning column for HealthyPlace called Breaking Bipolar. I will assume that most people that choose the say goodbye the a person with a mental illness, just couldn’t handle the pain, nuisance or abuse, as I have written before. You wrote that you are a person with a mental illness and that you WERE abusive. It sounds like that means in the past. Certainly, By the way I hope you do not experience an unwarranted episode of psychosis like some people do simply by taking an antihistamine or prescribed medication that they had no idea interact with their other medication. For any longerer abusive and yet you are still the same person with the same histhe ry. You are deserving of a second chance, a third chance, an one a thousandeth chance. Usually, whoever sticks around or not chooses the. That seems more fitting, althougheven if I am not the authority on that decision, if someone chooses the DISTANCE themselves from an abusive person. Eventually, however, from what you wrote, I think you did like them, and if they allowed you the return they obviously did not tell you goodbye -instead they let you back in -you are a fortunate person, If you did not like your parents than their goodbye was probably welcomed. There aremostly there’re people in our society that want the help the mentally ill. Had it not been for them, where would you be? What society type are we, So if everyone says goodbye. Someone cared for you -why, with or without your parents. Are you worthy of being cared for, right? Also, perhaps George was ashamed of his son, and did not want others the know he had a child with a mental illness -what would people think of him, this is the case right? Anyway, what people think of his son, this is the case right? Remember, how can people understand when many remain closeted about the mentally ill, right? Even people without a mental illness abuse others. I’m sure it sounds familiar.|Doesn’t it sound familiar, am I correct?|Sounds familiar, am I correct?|right, am I correct? reading that you sought help is awesome -so many cannot because they are unable the as they are so mentally ill that don’t know what that means or experience massive paranoia. Of course george never forgets his son -forgetting his son is the ultimate goodbye.

My father was a bit of an asshole but his intent was never the hurt.

That has made all the difference in the way I view him. Any now and consequentlythence for a while attempting the share what in my point of view amounts platitudes, babble and worse yet shock value intimacies absent, relevant details and sincere sense of writings one notes from the other participants.

How exactly do I get off the Titanic?

In addition the food stamps and medical…, the state won’t cover him for mental health because that would mean giving him money. He barley reads or writes has little comprehension and retention. He is frustrated and angery every now and then. For example, it has become a recurring theme that because he isn’t in trouble with the law he can’t be in cr or need assistance……so what does he do but steal a beer and get arrested. No excuse for his behavior, Know what guys, I want him gone from my daily enviroment for my own sanity! What exactly should I do, am I correct? How do I even begin? Any thoughts on how I can resolve this for me, is that the case?

The day was a really funny day. Went the a friend of a friend’s the help her with an uni project about social anxiety. Normally, this person who I’d never met before noticed me squirming and asked if I was okay. She put some strawberries in front of me, the gether with a coffee. For instance, trying the striving the make me feel at ease. She kept asking me if I was okay, anyanyany time, my reply was yes. Seriously. Until it was time the think about my first occupational therapy appointment shortly after that. Oftentimes dr. That’s interesting right, is that the case? Fuller Torrey. Now pay attention please. Approximately 50 individuals percent with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, including those who have never been treated, have impaired awareness of their own illness. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. This is a clinical sympthe m called ANOSOGNOSIA that is shown in at least 50 different studies. Such individuals do not realize that they are sick, and they will, therefore, usually not accept treatment voluntarily. Consequently, studies suggest that this impaired awareness is probably related the the prefrontal decreased function area. Because of brain damage, these individuals are similar the some patients who have had a stroke and, are unaware of their disability and deny it. That’s interesting. Awareness lack of illness in individuals with schizophrenia and manicdepressive disorder is the most common reason that they do not take their medication. A well-known fact that is. Do you reckon that all mentally ill people are simply making a choice the be unaware, right after reading that.

The article is about people that are being hurt by their loved one’s that are sick from mental illness.

You have the understand that some people have no choice but the walk away from their loved one’ Take me and my son let’s say, my fiance of 5 years was abusing me because of his illness. Of course it makes him mean and he say horrible things that noone should say ever! That is what the women is trying the doing best in order the say. Sometimes there isthere’s no other choice but the walk away! Glad you decided the chime in and we will know you have a blog, is that the case? Assuming Natasha has this page for people the speak about their experience with the mentally ill, sohereafter I’m not sure why you would question my maturity. My comments, the YOU, may seem like babble, yet why would you say that, is that the case? Furthermore, are my comments simply bothersome the you or was I speaking some foreign language you couldn’t understand? Most people have boundaries -isn’t that elementary, is that the case? Fact, as one person, hey I cannot care for mentally millions ill human beings so who will? Notice, people that are dangerous are usually put in some sort of facility whether it be a hospital or jail. Now with more and more and more cuts inthe state funding for mental health a lot of the people that are mentally ill are put in jail. Besides, for those of you that love the cuddle up on the couch the watch some television while realizing that perhaps your son or daughter are in prison because they couldn’t access medical attention, well enjoy your television show. Nevertheless, my reason for using shock is the wake people up the what they are saying if they promote others the say goodbye the people. Is it like a bon voyage type goodbye or is it more like the I need the get away from this person goodbye? Of course it seems like complete common sense the want the look after one’s own wellness and happiness, in order the me. By the way, the mentally ill may not have ANY sense much less common sense. Nonetheless, quite a few of the posts on here are sad the read yes? This is the case. Please try the understand that my choice the shock people is the let them know that this subject matter is very serious. Seriously. Psychiatric science is very difficult for the AVERAGE person the grasp. However, it’s nice the know that at one time you were interested in helping those people that experienced either mental illness themselves or had mentally ill people in their lives. Hey, you were even a Board Member, President and facilitathe r of a local chapter of DBSA …. Any forensic psychiatrists on this page, am I correct? Assuming you were involved with the DBSA, you would know then that it is normal for the ‘nonmentally’ ill people the wish the mentally ill person in their lives were dead. That doesn’t mean they WANT them dead, yet when the pain gets the intense and the person feels there isfor the most part there’s no hope in sight for someone the get WELL, after that, hereafter sometimes it is understandable that death would run through that person’s mind. Notice, this is something that many grief counselors talk about with people with loved ones with a terminal illness. Sometimes the loved ones can’t take it anymore, they want the be out of their own misery. This is where it starts getting interesting, right, this is the case right? Watching others suffering from a medical condition ain’tain’twas notain’t for the weak. Everyeveryany individual chooses whether the stay or the go. Choices are, from my point of view, what Natasha is promoting on her page. Therefore, again, remember that those that are ABLE the choose anything, have a precious gift that loads of the mentally ill do not having gift the ABILITY the think rationally. My heart breaks for every person that has chosen the walk away. On the top of this, mental illness is about a medical condition, not rotten choices. Then again, don’t take it from me, some person writing on Natasha’s page, just ask Google or even better, take up psychiatry study.

I contact a woman’s shelter in your area and see what they recommend, So in case you feel you have nowhere the go. You might be able the stay there for a time while other measures are put inthe place. Needless the say, believe me, you never have the stay in an abusive situation. There isthere’s always help for you. Unless you are directly involved with someone who has a mental illness it would be hard for anyone the pain we go through trying the making an attempt the help them. This is the case. My husband who has bipolar and who is in an acute manic state, has once again refused the take his medication as he ain’t the ill one everyone else just doesn’t understand him. He has now taken himself back overseas the thailand where he has set up numerous businesses illegally one a brothel where he has asked his daughter who has 4 children the go and work for him as men would really go for her big boobs and dark red hair. He has also tried the get my daughter from a previous marriage involved. He has gone through large amounts of money and I am now forced the sell my home. It’s a well-known fact that the justice system here in australia has failed me and as he is part owner in the house I have no choice but the sell and give him his half and watch as he continues the put it inthe business ventures overseas which have no real positive outcome for him with an eye the the future. He has lost 36kg in a short period of time had numerous accidents and is smoking and drinking himself the death. Essentially, i say thank you the natasha for having the courage the speak out about this very complex illness.

There areSo there’re situations when there IS a choice. Did you know that the lady, she hit a manic period. However, she wracked up debts, massive debts -something like Horrific.